Gary's book is short and simple. If you are looking for a change in your life, you will love it! View all 3 comments. Apr 08, Theresa Alan rated it really liked it. I read this to help do the best I can today and what can I do when the world returns to something like normal. Positive self-talk can dramatically improve mood, boost confidence, and increase positivity. Stop blaming other people. Stop pointing to outside influences or circumstances. You have to ask yourself: Am I willing?
We want changes right away, but we have to think realistically. If you want to get in better shape, is working out for half an hour a day really impossible?
You will get judged—for the novel you write or the business you start. You are what you do. Your actions. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy. Just do it. Expect the unexpected. The unhappiness lies in the gap between hidden expectations and reality. In marriages, the biggest cause of discord is unmet expectations.
Plan for victory, learn from defeat. Are you willing to always buy larger size clothes and get winded walking up two flights of stairs or are you unwilling, and therefore willing to work out and eat a more healthy diet.
View 2 comments. Okay, let's set things straight, a lotta people are saying this book ain't nothin' and I really don't appreciate that. I 've come across so many self development books and articles, videos and stuff, it never once mentioned that by going against the diet thing and deciding to eat whatever you want, that's considered winning.
There are seven chapters, each one of em hits home fo' real. I definitely recommend this. I think Bishop is going for the direct, "tough love" type approach with this book, which presumes that the reader is perpetually miserable, lazy, fat, and unsatisfied. These assumptions restrict his meandering diatribe to exactly that which he claims to loathe--a basic mantra-driven self-help trope that lazily posits, "Just do it!
If that commanding cheer was enough to rip people from the grips of paralyzing fear of change, unpredictability, the unknown, or even basic disc I think Bishop is going for the direct, "tough love" type approach with this book, which presumes that the reader is perpetually miserable, lazy, fat, and unsatisfied. If that commanding cheer was enough to rip people from the grips of paralyzing fear of change, unpredictability, the unknown, or even basic discomfort , than the first hundreds of books published just like this would have completely erased the market for books just like this.
In short, Bishop offers nothing psychologically, philosophically, or socially insightful to the conversation around why we often do things that are self-destructive and misaligned with our ultimate goals. There is potential here, though, as an introductory self-help text if you have literally never read one before. Jul 19, Aesaan rated it really liked it Shelves: non-fiction , self-help , favorites.
The message is simple - we need to get out of our heads and act now. Do you want to feel like someone kicks you in the groin first then explains to you how you've been ruining your life? If the answer is yes then this is the perfect book for you. Bishop doesn't talk nice and sweet. He makes it feel like one of those "adult talk" sessions with your grandfather if you know what I mean.
Overall, it's an effective read with a darn good narration for the audiobook. View all 5 comments. Dec 19, Amanda Breed rated it did not like it. Complete and utter garbage. When I first started listening to the audio version of this book, I was excited and eager to learn something new.
And not only that, the messages Gary John Bishop is regurgitating are some of the most garbage personal improvement messages out there. As others have pointed out, Mr. Bishop has some seriously privileged blinders on and completel Complete and utter garbage. Bishop has some seriously privileged blinders on and completely ignores marginalized populations.
Give it your all, but expect nothing. You deserve nothing. Stop it. Let me sell you a program I made! Bishop is not a therapist. He is a motivational speaker with, from what I could find online, zero mental health training. I quite like this book. It's a different approach and a kick in the butt to get you out of a rut.
One of the most important bits to take away is that we are not our thoughts but we are what we do. Bishop insists that we need to act, even if we don't feel like it. When we choose not to act, we need to face the fact that we're not willing. Inaction is, in effect, action and can be debilitating and have a domino effect.
If you just want a hug and to be told nothing is your fault, well, this probabl I quite like this book. If you just want a hug and to be told nothing is your fault, well, this probably isn't for you. If you want to put your big girl or boy pants on and get on with it and make things happen, then this is a good place to start. Would also be a good gift for a friend or family member who might need a not so subtle kick in the arse.
Definitely recommend. Apr 14, Darwin8u rated it liked it Shelves: nonfiction , philosophy , , self-help , british. Well, the title isn't novel. What he's basically doing, I guess, is now referred to as urban philosophy. Perhaps that means philosophy done while wearing a tee-shirt, or tagged on walls, or making Heidegger, Gadamer, Epicectetus, Seneca, etc. Things sell better when they feel like they are up-to-date.
Rebooting stocism works. We've even seen it with mega-churches where the pastors are tattooed and wear Gucci sneakers. The message is sometimes the medium. Still, I did enjoy it. And, it only took a single bath to eat, digest, and accept: 1. So many great points! Some aren't original; but overall, this is one of the better self-help books I've recently read. Jun 09, Bibliovoracious added it.
I'm not into shouty boot strap boosterism. As though, if you say something louder, with swear words, it's more inspiring. Fortunately, I don't have to. As a tool for turning one's life around, it could possibly be the most effective book of all time in this regard.
Such a statement perplexes me then as to why some people would leave negative reviews such as, "there's nothing new here" or "there's no new information" or "it's too simplistic" etc. But frankly, they're missing the entire point of the book and that is to break down the barriers of those who would not usually consider personal-development books with brute force, the kind of advice you would usually get from a fervent family member. This is the book for people who have a cynical view of the personal-development industry — a cynicism that needs to be rooted out if you are to achieve anything in your life.
So if you're somebody who has read a whole bunch of these books as if it's a sport, then perhaps you've fallen into the trap of being overly analytical and figuring things out in your mind rather than reaching out to people who could help you. And I say this because it would be absolutely tragic for someone who genuinely needs help, who genuinely wants to improve their situation, to have their cynicism validated and compounded by some of the negative and unhelpful reviews I've read here.
I can't highly recommend this book enough and if you're the slightest bit motivated to improve your life then look no further. Dec 11, Yodamom rated it it was amazing Shelves: audio.
Works for me. Jan 20, Catherine rated it it was ok Shelves: nonfiction. I do have to say though that Gary John Bishop was very motivating — I liked the 7 personal assertions he broke each chapter down by: 1.
I am willing 2. I am wired to win 3. I got this 4. I embrace uncertainty 5. I am not my thoughts; I am what I do 6. I am relentless 7. Although the message is a good one, the manner in which the author conveys it does come off as a little bit aggressive at times, and I could see how one could be turned off by that. Don't let your mind control you any longer. Stop letting it hold you back with its excuses and distractions and worries. You are not your thoughts. You are your actions.
And your actions are the only thing separating you from where you are and where you want to be. This isn't just about seizing the day; this is about seizing the moment, the hour, the week, the month.
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This really happened: when Yale researchers had colleagues watch a stress. These pages are dedicated to those who experience that self-defeating monologue. The endless stream of doubt and subterfuge that limits and taints everyday life. This is a conversational slap from the universe to wake you up to your true potential, to unfuck yourself, and get spectacularly into your life. There are two kinds of talk you engage in every day: talking to others and talking to yourself.
But, in fact, most of the conversations you have on any given day are with yourself—all enjoyed in the solitude and privacy of your own head. You do it while exercising, working, eating, reading, writing, walking, texting, crying, arguing, negotiating, planning, praying, meditating, having sex on your own and with others —you name it. And yes, you even do it in your sleep. Either way, we all do it, so settle in and welcome to the freak show.
Studies show that we have over fifty thousand thoughts per day. While we have little or no say in those automatic and reactionary thoughts, we have a massive say in which of those same thoughts we attach significance to. The latest in neuroscience and psychology adds weight to the idea that the kind of talk you engage in has a profound impact on the quality of your life.
Professor Will Hart of the University of Alabama conducted four experiments in which participants either recalled or experienced a positive, negative, or neutral event. They found that people who described the neutral event in ways that suggested it was ongoing actually felt more positive and when they described a negative event in the same way, they experienced more negativity. In simple terms, the language you use to describe your circumstances determines how you see, experience, and participate in them and dramatically affects how you deal with your life and confront problems both big and small.
The connection between what we say and how we feel has been known for hundreds if not thousands of years. Philosophers like Wittgenstein, Heidegger, and Gadamer all knew of the importance and significance of language in our lives. Wittgenstein said, The harmony between thought and reality can be found in the grammar of the language. The good news is, studies have continually found that positive self-talk can dramatically improve mood, boost confidence, increase productivity, and more.
Much more. In fact, as evidenced by Professor Hart and his studies, it can be one of the key components to a happy, successful life. The bad news is, the reverse is also true: Negative self-talk can not only put us in a bad mood, it can leave us feeling helpless. It can make small problems seem bigger—and even create problems where none existed before. Thanks but eh, no thanks. This book is designed to give you an authentic leg up—one that feels genuine and right for you and can propel you into greater levels of your true potential.
That quote comes from Albert Ellis, one of the forefathers of modern psychology. Ellis found that how we think and talk about our experiences shifts the way we feel about them. In short, our thoughts are bedfellows with our emotions.
In addition, we never really see what we are leaving ourselves with or the emotional residue of engaging in even the mildest of negative self-talk. Sometimes negative self-talk leads to anger, sadness, or frustration that manifests in different or seemingly unrelated situations.
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